Thursday, September 8, 2011




8th September

A normal day in most of our lives, including mine. Sukhpreet , my friend asked me this morning, what plan. Pat came my reply, that  its regular as any other day.

Now i wonder, is it really the same? Should it be the same?
As my mind struggles to the answer, I get a revelation...........
I am telling myself that today is a part of my routine, as there is comfort in the familiar. To acknowledge that today is a day of significance would be to reopen a badly healed wound.

It is 8 years today to Ketu’s passing away.


I would like today to merge into the rest of the days as i have let it happen for so many years.
But if I did that it will lose significance and one day, lose its existence. it will even cease to be a memory.

 The pain of absence needs to be converted into the joy of remembrance. A celebration of what was!

Today is a place me and the kids have arrived at, on a journey started by ketu and me, along a path chosen by us. He has been a guiding force at a lot junctions in my life, and the decisions which I thought were unilateral, were not so in reality. The nine years we spent together have been a big influence in my life.

Ketu was a loving, sensitive and an intelligent man. He lived his life to its fullest and believed in dying young, like his idols Jim Morrison and Kurt Cobain. Maybe he was intiutive about his destiny.

Hope he is at peace wherever he is.

Cheers to Ketu! Cheers to Life!
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10 comments:

  1. PannaSeptember 8, 2011 at 4:17 PM

    Dear Paru,

    You and Ketubhai were an amazingly dynamic pair. He lived his life with bravity. You are carrying on life with passion, joy & determination that is visible today through you as well as wonderful children you are raising.

    I wish you all happiness, peace and power within.
    Love,
    Masi

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  2. JituSeptember 8, 2011 at 5:10 PM

    Amazing! This one word is sufficient for you. The way you have taken up your life as well as the brought-ups of both Arnav & Sanjana.May God give you the strength to live a happy life.
    We are always there at your back & call.
    Mom-Papa

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  3. SurekhaSeptember 8, 2011 at 5:25 PM

    Dear Parul,

    I like your spirit for sharing your pain with us. We also will like to remember Ketu with u.U have taken it so strongly. I often wonder how u manage, your life is so organised. May God give u more strength.

    Love
    Mummy

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  4. NikitaSeptember 8, 2011 at 6:05 PM

    Dearest Parulben,

    This is so beautifully written. All other words would pale in comparison. I don't think you need to worry about losing the memory of someone so wonderful. He lives on in your courage and the joy that are the children.

    You are a hero for all of us.
    Love
    Nikita

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  5. in my bubbleSeptember 8, 2011 at 6:25 PM

    Do you know what an inspiration you have become to so many of us who know you? Ketu's passing was a shocking reality check for many of us but it was far more impacting for you and your beautiful kids. I applaud your journey of strength and courage over these past 8 years and thank you for sharing it with us. Lots of love from too far away!

    sonal

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  6. Maithili ParikhSeptember 8, 2011 at 10:03 PM

    Dearest Parul Mami,

    You are my hero. I'm so grateful for the time I've had with Arnav, Sanj and you this past year. Thank you for being such an inspiration.

    Love,
    Maithili

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  7. shahmeisterSeptember 9, 2011 at 9:21 AM

    When posed the question of "If life is so purposeless, do you feel that it’s worth living?", Stanley Kubrick in 1968 responded the following:

    Kubrick: "Yes, for those of us who manage somehow to cope with our mortality. The very meaninglessness of life forces man to create his own meaning.

    Children, of course, begin life with an untarnished sense of wonder, a capacity to experience total joy at something as simple as the greenness of a leaf; but as they grow older, the awareness of death and decay begins to impinge on their consciousness and subtly erode their joie de vivre, their idealism — and their assumption of immortality.

    As a child matures, he sees death and pain everywhere about him, and begins to lose faith in the ultimate goodness of man. But if he’s reasonably strong — and lucky — he can emerge from this twilight of the soul into a rebirth of life’s élan.

    Both because of and in spite of his awareness of the meaninglessness of life, he can forge a fresh sense of purpose and affirmation. He may not recapture the same pure sense of wonder he was born with, but he can shape something far more enduring and sustaining.

    The most terrifying fact of the universe is not that it is hostile but that it is indifferent; but if we can come to terms with this indifference and accept the challenges of life within the boundaries of death — however mutable man may be able to make them — our existence as a species can have genuine meaning and fulfillment.

    However vast the darkness, we must supply our own light."

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    P - your vulnerability and strength shine and all we can do is scratch our heads, love you even more and thank you for being you... xoxo Sejal

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  8. ASHISHSeptember 9, 2011 at 7:33 PM

    Very well written Parul, but must say this is typical YOU. Impulsive to begin with (NORMAL DAY...) but then reflect beautifully..

    So, I knew Ketu for 30+ years that makes it three times you. I am sure wherever he is, he is very proud of how you have gone about your and Arnav/Sanjana's lives.

    Cheers to Parul :-)

    - Ashish

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  9. Hipp-ie-campusSeptember 10, 2011 at 3:20 AM

    Jim Morrison and Kurt Cobain are alive through their music. The kids and you are his music :)
    *hugs*

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  10. UnknownSeptember 11, 2011 at 2:42 PM

    thank you all for your wonderful words- encouragement and all! :)- honestly-its quite overwhelming!

    -parul

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